Who is telling you how and what you need to do to be You?
Did you ever hear these words; “Just you wait until your father gets home!!! ”
My client Wanda, (not her real name,) wanted to find the source of her mounting discontent, in what seemed to be a perfect life.
Wanda is very efficient at getting all the ticks off her list everyday.
Her outer world looks amazing and her life is perfect; tidy beautiful home, she dresses impeccably, good parent to her children, good wife, runs her own home business, yet when we first started working together, she couldn’t recognize when she was heading into ‘overwhelm.’ She was on auto-pilot and the hoops that she needed to jump through daily had no room for error. She was a dedicated perfectionist.
We explored her need to maintain this perfect life. Wanda was humbled to find that she had an inner-child part that lived in terror of her father’s rage and mood swings.
She wasn’t the only one in her family that was afraid …
Wanda’s mother was also suffering with fear of her husband arriving home daily from work, and was trying to manage the family in some kind of normalcy.
It didn’t take long before Wanda had a breakthrough about her fear of authority and the need for control. Many threads were connecting and rearranging her truth organically as she saw things in a clearer perspective.
Due to this new awareness about ‘father fear’ she understood her social fears and anxiety in a new light.
Bit by bit, Wanda started witnessing fearful younger parts of herself that were not functioning in the present moment.
Today she can see that the part of her that was in a constant fear response … was yelling at her just like her Dad with angry self talk to get the job done AND … DO IT RIGHT, OR ELSE!
The angry orphaned part of Wanda was doing its very best to keep her safe from the shame of failure and punishment.
We want to acknowledge and thank this loyal part and give (her) a new job. So, in this case the hidden conflict within Wanda was leading us to the antidote to heal the inner child.
I will explain; when we interview the orphaned part with neutrality and respect, and speak the truth about what happened, the words of truth are like medicine and act as the antidote to heal the deeply wounded hidden parts.
By acknowledging the wounded part with our words, this part gets seen and heard and can lean in closer to trust that WE are the authority, not a grumpy stressed out parent that had no skills to heal their own past wounding.
Wanda can now read the symptoms of overwhelm in her ‘perfect’ life as a messenger to take a pause and check in with her truth. She can now see that she was doing this to herself. This was the first step to making any change with her father’s programming.
With the help of her family doctor, she is now completely off her anti-anxiety meds and is getting her present moments back into her ‘now. She is learning how to be her own ‘Artist of Change’ and accountability partner. Wanda is trusting her decisions and learning that it’s safe to receive her truth and love filled life.
Listen to your body and nervous system, for it holds all the information to heal you. The truth will set you free!
Please forward this to a loved one if it might help them to see a light flickering at the end of the tunnel.
I am at your service and would love to tell you more about The Soular Healing Method®. We can discuss your hardwiring on a free Discovery Call.
